How to Overcome an Addiction?

Addiction is the compulsive, chronic, physiological, psychological need for a habit-forming substance, behavior or activity and there are harmful consequences for the habit. Addiction can lead to a lot of emotional health, mental health issues and eventually social trauma. It’s a vicious circle.

Making the decision to overcome addiction and getting out of that vicious circle is the first step towards the road to recovery. Irrespective of the type of addiction (alcohol or drugs), the addicts always struggle with internal conflict about how to overcome their weakness and continue their efforts to win this battle. Addiction is like a storm that is hitting their lives and loved ones. It makes the person weak, emotionally unstable, and stressful. The realization of an abnormal life and their habit disrupting the lives of loved ones is a wake up – also the first step towards the road to recovery. All of these people need some support, help and medical attention, so that they can lead a normal life and realize their full potential. Addiction should not limit the growth and wellbeing.

Path to recovery is not an easy road, in fact it is a roller coaster ride. It’s a long road but there is light at the end of the tunnel. One must have clear goals and be mindful of the behavior during the journey and seek help.

The journey for overcoming addiction can be broken down into following Four steps:

1. Acknowledging the Problems

It is being observed and studies have proved that many people don’t realize that their addiction is causing a lot of problems in their lives until they hit the rock bottom. At times these individuals are living in the state of denial, and they don’t realize that addiction is a problem, and they are already suffering from this. Acknowledging the problem can put them towards road to recovery.

2. Getting the Support:

Talking it out is potentially the second step towards the road to recovery. Speaking to people you can trust about your addiction, developing a network of peers or joining a peer group (family, friends or role models) who can give you confidence and keep you motivated and be a support in your battle.

3. Finding Treatment:

Getting professional help is the most critical step to overcome addiction. Trained healthcare providers who can provide supervised medical help and emotional support to bring the life back on normal track for an addict.

Addiction not only affect your physical health but also your mental and emotional health. Doctors and therapists at the recovery centers not only help you regain your physiological health back but also help you heal emotionally. Mind and body healing is a wholistic healing. This would help you regain confidence in oneself.

4. Maintaining Sobriety:

Getting clean is only one aspect of overcoming addiction but the next and the most difficult step is staying sober and maintaining one’s sobriety. This is the most critical aspect in an addict individual’s recovery. This requires the most courage, emotional strength and support from family, friends, peer group and society at large. As there are chances of relapse after the treatment. In a pursuit of recovery, the recovering individual is supposed to be mindful of one’s behavior. Staying in outpatient recovery and therapy is very critical. It can be done in person or via tele-health.

The decision about getting on the path of recovery and overcoming addiction is not an easy decision. This requires a person of grit, determination, and courage. The person needs to get out of hopeless thought process and become hopeful.

Recovery starts from within, as desire to live better and be a better person. With the correct treatment and support network one can achieve the goal of being sober.

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Is Addiction a Disease?

 

To most medical professionals, the inquiry as to whether addiction is a disease is a simple one with an obvious answer. The medical response would be, of course, addiction is a disease. A disease of behavioral, psychological, environmental, biological, and genetic factors. This cannot be denied as what the individual is experiencing is clearly an abnormal and undesirable condition which has afflicted them and become out of their control. Yet despite this clarification, I remain reluctant to call addiction a disease purely for the reason that once someone is given the prognosis that they have a disease it often leads to feelings of helplessness and doom. Many diseases are chronic and uncurable. However, with addiction there is always the possibility for a full and successful recovery.

 

I’m not a huge fan of labels. This may seem odd coming from a licensed mental health therapist, required to make a diagnosis for each client they see. Yet it doesn’t sit well with me to name someone as something deemed potentially negative. The definition of disease is, a particular quality, habit, or disposition regarded as adversely affecting a person or group of people (Oxford, 2021). And this is a helpful and accurate definition that would pertain to something like addiction. Yet “diseased” also has a fairly negative and undesirable connotation. It implies that something is wrong with that person. Yet, just because you are struggling with addiction does not mean that there is anything wrong with you. When we are talking about addiction, it could be considered a disease in the way that it is an affliction that negatively affects someone. In addition, a disease isn’t seen as something that someone electively incurs. No one chooses to become addicted to something, be it drugs, alcohol, or anything else. We may initially enjoy partaking in something yet feel out of control as our engagement grows to destructive levels. So, yes, addiction can be seen as a disease yet the idea can disempower people. Sure it can be seen as a disease in the way that it creates a literal dis-ease within you. Yet try to keep an open mind that it doesn’t mean that there is inherently something marred about you.

 

We can state the facts. Addiction is an unpleasant condition that requires treatment to address and resolve. Therefore, it can be considered a disease of the body, mind, and being. Most significantly of the being as addiction is rooted not in the mind rather in the emotions. This of course is my personal take as someone who has recovered from several addictions and has a therapy background. Many different science and medical professionals would likely disagree. I see it as being foremost an emotional disorder as any addiction is a means of attempting to seek relief externally from that which plaques us internally. This could be physical pain, alcoholism is common among individuals struggling with chronic pain. However, most often addictions become an obsessive/compulsive means of treating emotional wounding from trauma and deep held shame and false core beliefs about oneself. Once these addictions are developed, there becomes a physical and mental dependency and efforts made to try and micromanage our uncomfortable emotions.

 

Regardless of whether you consider addiction to be a disease or not, it is important to seek treatment for whatever you are experiencing that is causing distress and dysfunction in your life. Addiction quickly becomes self-destructive and can lead to dire consequences when not professionally treated. When we try to pretend that a condition isn’t serious, whether a formal disease like cancer or an addiction, the condition will continue to worsen until we reach the point of being fully disabled by it.

When Should I Go to Rehab

 

One of the most challenging aspects of treating an addiction is being able to identify it in the first place. How do we know exactly when an addiction is present and, if it is suspected, when do we seek treatment for it? At first thought it may be hard to imagine that someone wouldn’t realize that they have developed an addiction. How could someone not recognize when that is happening? Denial, avoidance, and normalizing of behavior can be a strong trio that keep people from seeing their addiction for what it is. In addition, due to the stigma involved with having a drug or alcohol problem, many individuals will turn away from the reality of their situation. This reality might look like a significant increase in frequency and amount of drug or alcohol use which is resulting in adverse effects on the person’s life. Usage starts to impact the individual personally, professionally, financially, physically and more. The negative repercussions are often the case because in order to continue their habit, there will likely be a significant amount of deception occurring in their relationships at work, home, and socially. Not to mention the lies they may need to be telling themselves, one of which being that they are fine and they don’t have a problem. In reality, a problem is forming all around them. 

 

There are many signs which indicate that substance abuse has become a concern. The question is whether someone chooses to acknowledge it or not. Once someone begins to see issues, they might be ready to ask themselves some tough questions like; do I feel capable of managing my substance use? Have I become preoccupied with using drugs or alcohol? Am I developing a dependency on it? Am I able to go a week, a day, an hour without it? These are all significant questions to ask when determining if addiction may be present. Sometimes the problems will become so apparent that the individual doesn’t have the luxury of quiet contemplation. Their behaviors may become very evident to those around them leading to expressed concern and desire or even demand for treatment to be sought. Once these conversations come up, the question of, “Should I go to rehab” becomes a matter of necessity. The change in behavior and resulting ramifications can no longer be overlooked and are affecting people in the person’s life. When an addiction reaches its peak, it often involves a lot of wreckage surrounding them. Relationships and jobs lost, damage and loss of possessions and money among many others. There are often a few rounds or attempts to decrease substance use on one’s own before going into treatment. However sometimes the situation is so severe that it is evident that a professional, controlled facility is the only answer.  

 

It’s never easy to admit that we have lost control over an aspect of our lives. Pride will often take addicts to their grave as they simply cannot bare to concede to something being out of their power to manage. Especially when the admittance will dramatically change their lives. The tricky thing about addiction is that it grows out of something that often begins as a cherished and pleasurable past time. The decision to go to rehab takes great courage and can feel like a huge sacrifice and terrifying admission. However, the truth is that it can also feel like a huge relief for anyone who has been in the exhausting cycle of addiction for any period of time. Addictions are grueling. The thing that once provided great relief and even euphoria and joy will come to cause great misery and suffering. All addictions seem at first to serve us until we become a slave to it. There are many resources out there for anyone struggling with addiction, both to gain insight and seek help.

Is Addiction a Disability?

 

Substance abuse disorder, whether it is alcohol use disorder or opioid use disorder, is a complicated and dangerous diagnosis that can wreak havoc on an individual’s physical health, personal life, and professional life. Addiction can occur due to a multitude of factors, including genetics and environmental traits. The decision to take the first drink or experiment with painkillers may initially be a personal choice; addiction itself is not a choice. Addiction is viewed as a medical diagnosis as it has short terms and long-term effects on an individual’s brain and body. Substance use disorder is often referred to as a disability as it negatively affects an individual’s ability to function in society. 

 

Substance use disorders generally begin with occasional recreational use that can quickly turn into an everyday dependence. The individual is prone to severe physical and emotional withdrawals in the absence of the drug and most likely will not have a desire to quit. Substance use disorders often result in financial hardships due to the inability to work, as most places of employment have a zero-tolerance drug policy. Addiction can also break apart families resulting in isolation and loneliness. 

 

Is Substance use disorder a disability?

According to the American Disability Act (ADA), a substance use disorder, whether past or current, qualifies as a disability if the individual has a mental or physical impairment that limits one or more major life activities. Individuals who are struggling with addiction usually have difficulties caring for themselves, which is considered a significant life activity by the ADA. 

 

Unfortunately, our society views an individual with a physical handicap differently than an individual who is struggling with an opioid use disorder. Although both individuals have a disability, the stigma associated with substance use disorders has led to controversial views on who qualifies for disability benefits. 

 

What the government has to say

According to the U.S. government, individuals who are struggling with a substance use disorder can no longer receive disability benefits from the government, even if they have paid into their social security. In other words, the government does not view substance use disorders as a disability, which, unfortunately, has added to the current stigma surrounding addiction. 

 

Before 1996, individuals could be eligible for Social Security disability benefits if they were diagnosed with a substance use disorder. However, Congress eliminated this program, and as a result, individuals who are struggling with addiction can no longer receive this benefit. Without this benefit, it makes it difficult financially for those who are currently in treatment for their addiction, as most treatment programs require an intensive 30-60 day stay where individuals live in residential facilities while undergoing treatment. This means that individuals must step away from their jobs and families to make their recovery journey a first priority. 

 

What the medical community has to say

Therapists, physicians, and medical experts agree that addiction is a disability as it negatively impairs an individual’s ability to function. The medical community does not view addiction as a choice but rather as a disease such as any other medical condition, including diabetes and high blood pressure. As a result, treatment is focused on which usually encompasses medication, therapy, and holistic methods such as yoga and meditation. The goal of treatment is to not only “cure” the addiction but to uncover the underlying triggers that have lead to the addiction. Just like treating any other disability, medical professionals work to get to the root of the disorder. 

 

Food for thought

What if an individual who became paralyzed from a traumatic accident later became addicted to prescription pain medication? What if a young woman suffered an emotionally traumatic experience and has become dependent on sleep medication to fall asleep at night? Most addictions do not begin with individuals wanting to become addicted to opioids, sleep meds, anxiety pills, or alcohol. Substance use disorders occur for so many different reasons, and most of these reasons are unintentional. Many individuals who are physically disabled abuse prescription painkillers and alcohol not only to cope with their physical pain but also to erase their emotional and mental pain that comes with their disability. Disabilities come in all forms, and just because you may not be able to see the physical disability does not necessarily mean that an individual is battling an invisible disability. 

World Sleep Day: Dangers of Sleeping Pills

prevent sleeping pills addiction

 

World Sleep Day, March 19th, is an annual awareness day designed to educate the general public on the importance of good sleep hygiene and other relevant issues related to sleep, such as medicine, social aspects, driving while fatigued, sleeping pill addiction, and education. Adults are encouraged to have an average of 8-10 uninterrupted hours of sleep each night consistently; however, most adults average less than 7 hours of nightly sleep. We live in a society that grooms us to multitask to an extreme, and as a result, we often neglect healthy habits, including sleep. Many of us rely on coffee and other caffeinated drinks to keep us awake throughout the day and then use sleep-aids at night to help us fall asleep. Chemical sleep aides, also known as sleep medications or hypnotic-sedatives, work by slowing down brain activity to induce sleep, specifically by increasing the amount of non-REM sleep. Sleeping pills can be a quick fixed to help us with a good night’s rest; however, many Americans abuse sleep aids and get into the habit of using them consistently.

 

Types of sleep aides

  • Benzodiazepines and barbiturates: alprazolam (Xanax), diazepam (Valium), lorazepam (Ativan), and quazepam (Doral).
  • “Z-drugs”: Zolpidem (Ambien), zaleplon (Sonata), and eszopiclone (Lunesta).
  • Over the counter sleep aids: diphenhydramine (Benadryl) and acetaminophen/diphenhydramine (Tylenol PM)

 

Why are sleeping pills dangerous?

Over time, sleeping pills can re-wire the brain that disrupts the sleep/wake cycle. Chronic use of sleeping pills can result in needing higher doses to produce the same effects, and many individuals will experience physical withdrawals upon cessation of sleep aids. In other words, sleeping medications have high addiction potential.

 

Sleeping pills are also known to contribute to life-threatening accidents. Individuals who are under the influence of sleeping pills will cook, walk, operate a car, and shop online while they are asleep. They awake the next morning with no recollection of the previous night’s episodes. Driving under the influence of sleep medications is extremely dangerous and can even be considered reckless driving. Mixing sleep medications with alcohol can result in a higher addiction potential with worsening side effects as alcohol acts on the same receptors in the brain as some of the sleep medications mentioned above.

 

However, it is essential to note that not all sleep medications are harmful. Sleeping aids can help induce sleep and can be used for a short period (a few days) for individuals who are struggling to fall asleep or stay asleep. It is when individuals depend on sleep medications over the long-term that can result in addiction. Regardless of the time frame of use, sleep medications should never be used while operating a motorized vehicle or engaging in activities that could be deemed dangerous.

 

Good sleep hygiene

Good sleep hygiene is similar to adopting a healthy exercise and eating routine; it takes time, commitment, and good habits. The following are tips for a restful night’s sleep:

  • Create a calm sleep environment: A cool dark room with a comfortable bed without any florescent lighting is the most conducive to a restful night’s sleep.
  • Avoid screen time one hour before bed: Avoid cell phone or television use at least one hour before bed for your brain to relax. It is best not to have a television in the bedroom and to only use the bedroom for sleeping.
  • Stick to a strict sleep/wake schedule: It is essential to set a consistent bedtime and wake time every day, including weekends. This may take a couple of weeks to adapt, but over time, your brain and body will become used to falling asleep and waking up at the same time every day, which will allow you to have consistent non-REM and REM sleep cycles.
  • Avoid caffeine, alcohol, and food before bed: Avoid caffeine after 2 PM and avoid eating anything at least four hours before bed. Although alcohol is known to induce sleep, it is also known to result in nighttime awakenings, and therefore individuals do not benefit from an alcohol-induced slumber.
  • Avoid exercise before bed: Exercise during the day is a great way to help you adopt a healthy sleep cycle; however, it is best to avoid exercise two hours before bed. This way, your body has a chance to relax to prepare for sleep.
  • Adopt “sleepy-time” patterns: Sleep-inducing teas, warm baths, and lavender essential oils are all relaxing ways to induce sleep.

 

Seeking help 

If you find yourself reaching for the bottle of sleep medications or feeling as though you need a medicated induced sleep, you may be struggling with a sleep medication use disorder. Although adopting healthy sleep hygiene and a routine sleep pattern is essential, seeking help for your sleeping pill addiction is just as important. Quest2Recovery provides treatment for individuals who are addicted to benzodiazepines and other sleep aids. Now is a good time to call. Take care of yourself and get a good night’s rest.

Codependent Relationships and Addiction

Overcoming codependent relationships

As we approach Valentine’s Day, a day that is meant to celebrate every aspect of love, friendship, and romance, many of us in addiction recovery often struggle with new romantic relationships secondary to codependent behaviors. 

Successful and healthy relationships take a lot of patience, skill, empathy, and determination. Many factors are needed for positive growth, whether it is a romantic relationship, a sibling relationship, a friendship, or a parent/child relationship. Codependency is a negative factor that is encountered in many relationships that can destroy not only the relationship but also each individual involved. Codependency was first defined nearly 50 years ago to describe unhealthy relationships characterized by excessive control or compliance, often with one partner lacking self-sufficiency and autonomy resulting in sacrificing one’s personal needs to try to meet others’ needs. Codependency is strongly associated with passivity and feelings of shame, low self-worth, or insecurity. Codependent behaviors usually stem from deep-rooted pasts. Many individuals may not even realize they are codependent or deny that they are in a codependent relationship. 

Addiction and codependent behaviors

This concept was originally conceived in the context of addiction. It helped explain “enabling” patterns used to ease relationship tension caused by drug and alcohol abuse. We now understand that enabling behaviors (such as rescuing a partner, bailing them out, making and accepting excuses for their behavior, and continuously trying to fix problems) are common in non-addiction-related codependent relationships. 

 

Common codependency signs

  • You feel that your partner is responsible for solving your problems
  • Your partner has verbally expressed to you that they feel unappreciated and unloved
  • You are continually trying to please your partner
  • You desperately want your partner to “save you”
  • Your happiness stems from your relationship with your partner
  • You continuously are looking for advice and direction from your partner on how to live your life
  • You see yourself as a perpetual victim

 

The origins of codependency

Unlike addiction, codependency is not a disease or a disorder but rather a learned behavior that often begins in childhood. As a result, codependent behaviors are deeply ingrained in our upbringing and personalities and will often re-surface throughout our adolescent years and adulthood. Codependency is mostly born into dysfunctional families with addiction, emotionally unavailable partners, and narcissistic behavior. The codependent parents set the tone for the child, and the child learns from the parents to try harder in every relationship. From a young age, these children learn to “walk on eggshells,” how to keep their needs hidden and put the needs of others before everything else, and how the outward appearance of the relationship is of utmost importance. Children who grow up in this environment do not learn to value or foster their self-worth and do not view themselves as independent or necessary and will consistently look for others to repair their “brokenness”. In adulthood, this creates unhealthy boundaries and can often push the individual to use drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism to deal with these underlying feelings, especially if their romantic partner is not filling their void. 

 

Recognizing your codependent patterns

Often it takes a life-changing decision or milestone for an individual to have that “ah-ha” moment whether they recognize the inequity that comes with codependency. However, just because an individual is aware that they are involved in a codependent relationship does not necessarily mean they will discontinue the behavior. Individuals in a codependent relationship are fearful of rejection and therefore saying “no”, is usually not in their vocabulary. Often it takes enrolling in an addiction treatment center for the individual to develop the coping skills necessary to exit a codependent relationship. However, if an individual struggles with an addiction, they may switch out their addiction for a codependent relationship. As a result, recovery can be a double-edged sword. It can teach us about coping skills and boundaries, but it can also lead us to trade in one addiction for another. 

 

Overcoming codependent relationships

To overcome a codependent relationship, especially if you are in recovery from addiction, it is essential to establish the following:

  • Strict boundaries
  • Self-esteem
  • The ability to say “no”
  • Self-love
  • Honesty
  • A strong support system
  • Strong communication skills

 

Signs of recovery from codependency

 

  • You nurture your wants and desires and develop a connection to your inner world. You see yourself as reliant, smart, and capable.
  • You say goodbye to abusive behavior. Awareness, change, and growth are necessary for you and your partner to overcome unhealthy relationship habits. Caretaking and enabling behavior is acknowledged and stopped.
  • You respond instead of react to your partner and others. Setting clear, firm boundaries means that you don’t automatically react to everyone’s thoughts and feelings. You tolerate other people’s opinions and do not become defensive when you disagree. You recognize that your reaction is your responsibility. You adopt a healthy skepticism regarding what others say about you (good or bad), and your self-esteem doesn’t rise and fall as a result. You say no, and you accept hearing no.

Counter dependency: the opposite of codependency

Codependency often goes hand in hand with both addiction and relationships because the individual in recovery has spent a great deal of time codependent on the substance of abuse. They needed this substance to get through their day, they needed it to cope with difficult feelings, and they needed it to feel good. When individuals enter recovery to gain sobriety, this void is often left unfilled, and as a result, many individuals may fill this void with codependent relationships. Instead of the substance of abuse, individuals will substitute romantic relationships to help them get through the day, make them feel worthy, help them overcome difficult feelings, and bring them happiness. In a way, it is substituting one addiction for another. So, how do you know you are maybe entering the waters of a codependent relationship during your recovery journey?

Quest 2 Recovery: Center for Addiction and Mental Health

As treatment professionals, it is our job to reach out to those struggling with addiction and mental health disorders. We want you to be a better role model, spouse, and parent to your loved ones. If you are struggling with a mental health or substance use disorder, we want to help you. We at Quest2Recovery, want to treat you, the individual, and not just your disorder. We want to break the mold, set the standard, and be role models for the rest of the addiction treatment industry. We want to invite you to seek help in a compassionate, non-judgmental environment.

 

The Dangers of “Mommy Needs Wine”

Frazzled mother in bed with her child and with a glass of wine appearing exhausted

Mothers are constantly bombarded by messages that booze, a more than $252-billion-dollar industry in the U.S., is indispensable to our survival as parents. Mommy needs wine to get through the day.

Or do we?

It’s time to change the narrative around parenthood and alcohol as the “mommy needs wine” culture is growing larger by the second.

The dangers associated with alcohol as a parenting coping tool are more serious than society’s painted pictures. It is nearly impossible to scroll through social media without seeing memes of “mothers little helper” and an image of a wine bottle. Of course, parenting is challenging, and some days, you may feel defeated, exhausted, and emotionally run down; however, turning to alcohol as a consistent coping tool not only is dangerous to your mental and physical health but it can impair your parenting skills and send the wrong idea to your child. Our children grow up watching our every move. They repeat what we say, mirror our actions, and pick up any subtle behaviors, even when we think they are not watching. Children are sponges, so when we reach for that glass of wine to take the edge off, our children see us. We are subconsciously telling our children that we need alcohol to cope, and we must self-medicate to tolerate them.

 

“A January 2020 study by the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) found that alcohol-related deaths among women in the U.S. rose 85 percent between 1999 and 2017, with the largest increase among non-Hispanic white women”.

 

Responsible drinking vs. “mommy needs wine”

There is a fine line between responsible social drinking and numbing yourself with booze to deal with being a parent. There is a difference between having a glass of wine at dinner or meeting your girlfriends for an occasional outing and sharing a bottle of wine compared to needing a drink on a daily basis in order to deal with the stress of parenthood. If you are wondering which side of the line you fall on, think about the following questions:

 

  • How often do you drink?
  • Why do you drink?
  • Do you drink as a way to deal with the stress of parenting?
  • Do you drink in front of your children?
  • How often do you drink in front of your children?
  • Do you drive under the influence with children in your car?
  • Do you drink when you become upset with your child?
  • Do you drink with other mom’s while having play dates with your kids?
  • Do you drink to calm your nerves around a screaming baby?

 

Being a mom, especially a new mom can raise feelings of inadequacy, isolation, depression, anxiety, and low-self esteem. You are constantly around children, elbow deep in dirty laundry, diapers, homework, and meal planning. You are trying to maintain your career and juggle parenting at the same time. You rarely have alone time and may feel emotionally and physically exhausted. Motherhood can lead to anxiety and depression, and oftentimes, we use alcohol as a crutch to hide these feelings instead of treating the anxiety and depression.

 

We live in a society where motherhood is portrayed as a beautiful dream full of laughter and love, and although motherhood is a treasured gift, it is hard. We are often not given permission to admit that we are struggling and to talk about our shortcomings and negative feelings associated with motherhood. So many mothers are scared to seek treatment out of fear they will be judged or have their child taken away. Recognizing your feelings and openly talking about them not only is a healthy outlet, but it can open many more conversations among other mothers who are also struggling. But if we hide our feelings and use alcohol as a coping mechanism, we are not only hurting ourselves, but we are potentially hurting our children.

 

Help for mom should not come in the form of mommy juice

Mommy doesn’t need wine. We need healthy outlets and help. Help should come in the form of loved ones and supportive partners, encouragement to develop healthy self-care routines, and affordable access to mental health and addiction services. We should be allowed to recognize and admit that no matter how strong or successful we are, we cannot do it all. We need time for ourselves; we need time away from our children, we need others to help us.

  • Hire a babysitter or find someone to watch your children so you can have alone time, even if you don’t leave the house. You should not feel obligated to be with your child every single day.
  • Share your thoughts, feelings, and challenges with other parents. You may be surprised how many other moms and dads relate to your story
  • Develop a self-care routine. Take a shower every day, exercise, adopt a healthy sleep routine, take a day off, read a book and engage with others. Just because you are a mom doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate your individuality.

 

Seek help 

If you are feeling an overwhelming amount of stress, isolation, depression, or anxiety and are using alcohol to numb the pain, it is important that you seek professional mental health treatment. The consequences of alcoholism as a parent can be dangerous not only for your own well-being but for the well-being of your child. You are at risk of endangering your child and passing on the genetic risk of alcoholism to your offspring. Professional treatment can help you recognize your underlying triggers and help identify and adopt ways to overcome the stress associated with parenthood.

 

Quest 2 Recovery: Center for Addiction and Mental Health

As treatment professionals, it is our job to reach out to those who are struggling with addiction and mental health disorders. We want you to be a better role model and parent to your child. If you are struggling with a mental health or substance use disorder, we want to help you. We at Quest2Recovery, want to treat you, the individual, and not just your disorder. We want to break the mold, set the standard, and be role models for the rest of the addiction treatment industry. We want to invite you to seek help in a compassionate, non-judgmental environment.

Celebrating the New Year in Sobriety

Ocean wave washing over 2020 as 2021 appears in the sand

As 2020 comes to an end, and as we gear up to enter 2021, many of us are left feeling confused, empty, stressed, and exhausted as this year has been one of the most challenging years in current history. The global pandemic has taken too many lives and livelihoods to count. Many of us no longer trust our government leaders. Neighbors and friends have pinned themselves against each other because of our opposing views on COVID-19. This pandemic has led to a mental health and addiction crisis. We have consumed more alcohol than normal, we have turned to drugs and the bottle to soothe our pain and we may even have lost our sobriety due to the insurmountable amount of stress and devastation that we, as a society have experienced. But with difficult challenges, devastations and hardships come growth, new beginnings, and strength. For those of us who have slipped out of sobriety or who have given up in our recovery, a new year means that we have a chance to begin again. For those of us who became addicted to drugs or alcohol for the first time, 2021 can be a chance to enter into recovery. We have a chance to celebrate a New Year in sobriety, so let’s take it.

Reflect on your journey

Now that 2020 is nearly in the rearview mirror, we can take time to reflect on this past year by expressing gratitude for our accomplishments and by taking accountability for our mistakes. Maybe we stayed strong in our recovery and if so, we should celebrate. Or maybe we relapsed or were in the deepest throes of our addiction. Whatever we encountered in 2020, whether good or bad, we should take this time to reflect, learn, celebrate, and set new goals. After all, without failure, we cannot have success and without success, we will never have growth. 

Find your tribe

Social gatherings quickly turned into virtual gatherings through this past year and many of us lost loved ones and friends due to this pandemic, due to different political views, and due to the sorrows of addiction. Whether it is remembering old friends, making new friends, and/or strengthening the bonds we already have with our friends, 2021 should be a year of focusing on embracing a strong support group. Without support from others, we cannot be successful in recovery in this upcoming year as successful recovery takes a village and we need to work on rebuilding and strengthening that village. 

Take accountability

Part of having a New Year in sobriety means taking accountability for our actions, whether good or bad. 

  • Find an accountability partner: Most treatment centers emphasize the importance of having an accountability partner; an individual who understands our struggle, supports our efforts, and refuses to be an enabler. It’s not just about having someone to turn to when we are feeling a trigger. Having an accountability partner also helps us tackle the detrimental effects of secrecy and isolation while sticking to our accountability decision.
  • Create a personal accountability statement/journal: Write down why you are choosing to be accountable for your sobriety and what the risks will be if you do not keep that promise to yourself.
  • Learn your triggers and create healthy coping skills to handle them
  • Find assistive technologies that work for you: Online support platforms and smartphone apps have opened many new doors to easy and economical ways to track our sobriety status and stay connected to those who can support our recovery. 
  • Consider entering addiction treatment: Being successful in our sobriety and recovery in 2021 means that we should ask for help if we have not already. Although there is no “cure” for addiction, there are many steps and coping skills we can adopt to stay in recovery. Addiction treatment will give you the necessary steps to enter recovery. After all, we need mental health and addiction professionals to guide us through our journey, and by investing in an addiction treatment center in 2021, we are not only investing in our recovery but we are also investing in ourselves. 
  • Celebrate your successes, even the small ones
  • Share your successes with others 

Set goals for the coming year

Making New Year’s resolutions is a perfect opportunity to make goals for this coming year. Whether it is connecting with more people, taking more time to yourself, learning a new hobby, moving your body more, or joining an addiction recovery support group, setting new goals can help keep you accountable in 2021.

Ring in the New Year in sobriety

New Year’s Eve is often celebrated with friends and alcohol, however, this does not have to be the case, especially for those who are in recovery or who are choosing to stay sober for any other reason. New Year’s Eve can mean game nights, sleeping under the stars in a tent, cooking an elaborate dinner at home with friends, watching a movie, or having a sober party. 

Quest 2 Recovery: Center for Addiction and Mental Health

As treatment professionals, it is our job to reach out to those who are struggling this holiday season and throughout this pandemic. We want to see you succeed in your recovery journey in the New Year. If you are struggling with a mental health or substance use disorder, we want to help you. We at Quest2Recovery, want to treat you, the individual, and not just your disorder. We want to break the mold, set the standard, and be role models for the rest of the addiction treatment industry. We want to invite you to seek help in a compassionate, non-judgmental environment.

Addiction Recovery During the Holidays

Holiday candles to light the room

This holiday season is especially unprecedented as we navigate through a global pandemic. This pandemic has taken lives and livelihoods and has severely damaged the economy while testing everyone’s mental health and sobriety. Addiction recovery during the holidays can be especially challenging as holiday parties and alcohol often surround us and this holiday season is no different. This holiday season, we are told to stay home, avoid family gatherings but now restaurants and stores are delivering alcohol to our doorsteps, making the temptation to drink even greater, especially if we are struggling with loneliness and depression. Staying home for the holidays can be challenging, especially for those who usually spend this time of year gathering and celebrating with loved ones. After all, we as humans are social creatures and we need to be around others for our mental and emotional wellness. This time of year is also difficult for those who are struggling with loss, financial hardships, and strained family relationships as the holiday season can be a reminder of all of these things. So how can we take better care of ourselves during this holiday season while living this pandemic?

Holiday survival guide for addiction

Addiction recovery and the holidays can be a challenging combination, especially if we are struggling with isolation, depression, and recovery. However, with the right mindset, healthy coping tools, and support groups; we can learn to adapt and grow during this time of year. 

Your sobriety is your priority: Your recovery is a lifelong process and is the most important aspect of your life. As a result, you must continue to honor your recovery by working the steps, connecting with strong role models, leaning on your support system, and eliminating any distractions or negativity that can interfere with your sobriety. This also means taking care of your mental health as mental health and addiction often go hand-in-hand. Take notice of your emotions and thoughts as you move through this holiday season. If you find that you are having troubling thoughts and negative emotions, write them down and try to find a pattern of any underlying triggers. It could be stress, negative people in your life, putting yourself in unhealthy situations, or loneliness. 

Stay in treatment: Maybe you finished your detoxification and inpatient treatment and are on the road to recovery or maybe you are still in treatment. Regardless of where you are on your recovery path, it is important to continue treatment whether it is outpatient teletherapy treatment once a week, outpatient group treatment, or residential treatment. Keeping in contact with your addiction or mental health therapist can help you brush up on your coping skills and the tools you need to be successful in recovery, especially around this time of year. The holiday season, especially this year, is not the time to take a break from treatment, regardless of where you are on your recovery journey. 

Get connected: Your support group is extremely important throughout your recovery process and even more so during this holiday season. Lean in on your friends, family, and fellow recovery peers for advice, comfort, and companionship. Engaging with a community recovery group is also helpful to connect with like-minded individuals who are going through a similar journey. During this pandemic, take advantage of virtual technology to engage with your support group and your friends. Programs such as FaceTime, Zoom, Google Hangouts, Skype, and other free video calling platforms are important to be able to connect with individuals face-to-face while you are sheltering at home during this pandemic. 

Get outside: Mother Nature is healing and spending time outdoors can help clear your mind and gain focus. Whether it is taking a walk, having a social distance picnic gathering at a park, camping, skiing, hiking, or going for a bike ride or run; take time each day to get outdoors. If you combine physical fitness with outdoor activity, that is even more beneficial as moving your body is a healthy coping skill that can help you in your recovery. Spending time outdoors has been shown to reduce depression and anxiety and be a form of meditation. 

Quest 2 Recovery: Center for Addiction and Mental Health

As treatment professionals, it is our job to reach out to those who are struggling this holiday season and throughout this pandemic. Addiction recovery during the holidays is important not only for your sobriety but also for your mental health. If you are struggling with a mental health or substance use disorder, we want to help you. We at Quest2Recovery, want to treat you, the individual, and not just your disorder. We want to break the mold, set the standard, and be role models for the rest of the addiction treatment industry. We want to invite you to seek help in a compassionate, non-judgmental environment.

Holidays in Recovery

The holidays should be a time for gathering, celebrating, expressing gratitude, and reflecting. Still, they often bring stress and worry, especially to those struggling with underlying issues such as substance abuse. The first year of sobriety, especially during the holiday season, can be a sea of ups and downs. Emotions can range from gratefulness and happiness to confusion and agony. It is common to reflect on past holiday seasons where alcohol or drugs were used as a crutch to numb the pain or avoid stressful family gatherings and office holiday parties. The holidays may hold some triggers, meaning that specific memories, people, and places can bring up urges and cravings. Being nervous about your first holiday season in recovery is entirely normal. Below are a few tips that can help you survive your first sober holiday season:

 

Be prepared to answer the question, “why are you not drinking.”

For many, the holidays are a time to celebrate, which often coincides with having one too many eggnogs or glasses of champagne. If you were a social drinker and now you are not, people may notice and ask you about it, especially if they are unaware that you quit drinking. It will most likely be a common question, especially if you attend holiday parties or gatherings. This question may make you feel flustered or stressed or may even take you off guard, so it is essential to prepare an answer beforehand. Ultimately, it is your decision whether you want to tell others about your recovery. If you are not yet comfortable sharing this journey with strangers, tell them that you are driving or trying to take better care of your health. 

 

Take pride in your recovery

Holidays in recovery can be challenging. You may get asked a few questions from family and friends during holiday gatherings about your recovery. Most people are unaware of the recovery journey unless they know someone who had this experience. As a result, you may be asked a handful of questions. This is your chance to educate others and break down the stigma associated with substance abuse and treatment. Try to view this as an opportunity to take pride in sharing your successful recovery journey instead of feeling like others are being intrusive about your sobriety. By telling your story, you will most likely encourage others to be honest about their struggles and successes. 

 

Establish clear boundaries

Be aware that you are may feel the urge to drink, especially in a social situation where alcohol is being served. It is essential to be picky about which holiday functions you attend and which people you choose to spend time around. Some places and people may be more triggering than others, and as a result, set boundaries with who you spend the holidays with. If this means skipping the annual office holiday party or not attending a family function, then be able to accept that. Additionally, if an individual starts making you uncomfortable about your recovery, then it is crucial to stand up for yourself and quickly exit that situation. You should never allow others to judge you regarding your recovery journey. 

 

Have an emergency plan

Holidays in recovery means having a plan. It is important to keep your friends and therapist in the loop, or on speed dial. You may need a quick exit strategy or an emergency therapy session if you suddenly feel triggered. Have an emergency plan in place, in case you feel the desire to drink or use. This may consist of retreating to a quiet place to journal, calling your therapist, attending a sobriety group meeting, or talking openly to a trusted friend. 

 

Set realistic expectations

You may feel tempted to drink, especially when holiday gatherings with family members become stressful. Be aware that these feelings may come and should pass. You also may miss drinking or may feel lonely without your old drinking buddies. Acknowledge that the holidays are stressful and may even be more so when you are new in recovery. Make sure you take care of yourself by practicing the things you love. Be prepared to have a rollercoaster of feelings and emotions and be ready to handle these emotions healthily.